A spouse s infidelity can destroy a marriage. Upwards of 40 percent of married couples are impacted by infidelity. Despite this large percentage who cheat, most will say that cheating is wrong. You may never truly know why your spouse was unfaithful. Your spouse may never truly understand it either. Individual reasons, such as a character or personality train
Relationship reasons, such as relationship dissatisfaction Situational reasons, such as being in a situation that puts one at risk for cheating given a prime opportunity Many people cheat after frustration in their marriage. The spouse has made several attempts to solve the problem to no avail. Or, the individual lacks the skill set to communicate feelings and needs that precipitate infidelity. There are also some spouses, albeit to a lesser degree, who do not value monogamy, lack empathy, or simply do not care about the consequences.
It is critical to realize that if you were the one cheated on, you are NOT responsible for your spouse making the decision to cheat. You are not to blame for your spouse s behavior. You would, however, want to explore how the dynamics between you and your spouse led you to this point. Even if you are not to blame for your spouse s choice, you will want to in your relationship. Sex Having an episode of (i. e. , manic) or substance abuse In general, men are seeking more sex or attention. Men express their love in a more physical way. They often don t have the perfect feeling words for their wives. So, sex becomes an important path to connection and intimacy. When the wives turn them down for sex often, they take that rejection to heart, and it can easily translate to feeling unloved. В When women cheat, they are often seeking to fill an emotional void. Women frequently complain of disconnection from a spouse, wishing to be desired and cherished.
An affair is more often a transitional person for the woman. She is seriously looking to leave to her marriage and this other person helps her do just that. В Regardless of the underlying reason a spouse cheats, it can either devastate a marriage or be the catalyst for rebuilding it, depending upon how the infidelity is dealt with. Why Do Men and Women Cheat? Infidelity or extramarital affairs have been extensively studied over the past two decades. Basically, when it comes to infidelity, two related explanations have been given. The first explanation is probably the most well known: Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship. Something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, a partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on.
Simply stated, people claim that they are not happy in their relationship, so they look for love and affection elsewhere. The second explanation is more detailed in nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people give for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature. The second explanation explores what it means to be human and asks: Why is being faithful to a spouse so difficult for many people? Probably the best way to think about these two explanations is to view them as two sides of the same coin. One explanation looks at what people say about infidelity, while the other explanation looks at how and why infidelity occurs. Together, both explanations give us a more complete picture about infidelity, love, and romance. On the pages that follow, these specific issues are addressed: Or using the link on the right will take you through each page of this section.