I haven t been married myself, I m FAR from it – but what I DO know is that people marry when they are in love, of course. But, the love hormones. I haven t been married myself, I m FAR from it – but what I DO know is that people marry when they are in love, of course. But, the love hormones that drove you crazy and made you want to get married only lasts 6 months. After that, is well. you just live with your spouse because you re now family. What I m trying to point out is, because you re still dating, you should find someone who doesn t mess things up and is your ideal type. Remember this – personality is more important than looks.
Lots of adults back then chose people either because they were rich or were beautiful or handsome. Pah! Nowadays those adults who did get married for those reasons regret it. I tell you now – adults can tell who is good and who isn t.
I got married really young (at 18), and stayed married for 12 years. Looking back now, with some life experience under my belt, it was actually, for the. I got married really young (at 18), and stayed married for 12 years. Looking back now, with some life experience under my belt, it was actually, for the most part, and most of the time, a pretty good marriage.
We truly just grew apart, or possibly, grew up and away from each other. Even though I haven t had contact with him for a couple of years, a part of me still loves him and always will. I will always wish him well. He is a good, decent man, and I acknowledge that we may have taken each other s love for granted in the end. Another case of me not knowing what I had until it was gone. Now, years after the divorce, I can say that if I were ever to marry again, it would only be with a man that I consider a true friend, someone I trust, respect, love. If I am ever blessed to find that, then yes I would marry again, for the companionship and security that is possible with a good marriage.
Looks, fancy cars, what the friends and neighbors think, have nothing to do with anything. If you are fortunate enough to find someone you can laugh with, someone you feel attracted to (for whatever reason), someone you like to listen to and who listens back, someone who shares your goals, someone you can expose your insecurities to, someone you can hold an interesting conversation with, someone you love and trust who also loves and trusts you in return, someone you want to hold onto in the middle of the night, I say go for it.
Marriage done right can be awesome. Not necessarily problem free, but awesome just the same. It does take BOTH people working for it to be special. Just remember to realize and cherish it when you find it. Yet, having said all that, I have also learned, through dating since my divorce, that if that right person DOESN T come along, so be it. There is little worse than a bad relationship. Little worse than putting your trust in someone who abuses that trust. Drama is so over-rated. It is better to be alone, than just WISH you were alone.