Praise be to Allaah. Shaving the pubic hair is
one of the sunnahs of the fitrah, and Islam has stipulated that it should not be left without shaving for more than forty days. The basic principle is that every accountable person should shave his pubic hair himself, unless he is unable to do that because he is too old or is sick. What the sister who is asking this question wants to do is a haraam action, and is an evil deed that it is not permissible for any Muslim woman to do except in cases of necessity. The fact that she is afraid to remove the hair is no excuse. This is not something that requires bravery and courage. There are many ways of removing it, some of which are easy. It does not make it permissible if her friend swears an oath not to tell anyone of what she sees. If it is permissible to do this because of necessity, her mother is a better person to shave her pubic hairs. The saheeh texts state that it is haraam for a man to look at the Бawrah of another man, or for a woman to look at the Бawrah of another woman, and the scholars are unanimously agreed on this prohibition. It was narrated that Abu SaБeed al-Khudri said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: БNo man should look at the Бawrah of another man, and no woman should look at the Бawrah of another woman. Б Narrated by Muslim (338). Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: As for a man with another man, each of them may look at that of his companion which is not Бawrah. And the ruling on a woman with a woman is the same as the ruling on a man with a man.
Al-Mughni (7/80). This is covering of women before men, and covering of men before men and women before women with regard to the Бawrah, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: БNo man should look at the Бawrah of another man, and no woman should look at the Бawrah of another woman, and he said: БGuard your Бawrah from everyone but your wife and that which your right hand possesses (i. e. , slave woman). Б I said: What if the people are living with one another? He said: БIf you can prevent anyone seeing it, then do not let him see it. Б I said: What if I am alone? He said: БAllaah is more deserving that you should feel shy before Him. Б And he forbade a man to lie with a man under one cover, or a woman to lie with a woman under one cover. And he said concerning children: БTeach them to pray when they are seven and smack them if they do not pray when they are ten, and separate them in their beds. Б He forbade looking at or touching the Бawrah of a person of the same gender, because that is abhorrent and immoral. As for men with women, this is because of the issue of sexual desire. MajmooБ al-Fataawa (22/113). Б This is something concerning which there is no difference of opinion. It is haraam for a man to look at a womanБs Бawrah and for a woman to look at a manБs Бawrah, according to scholarly consensus. An exception is made for the married couple, who may look at one anotherБs Бawrahs. Fath al-Baari (9/338, 339). It is not permissible for you to ask your friend to shave your pubic hair for you, or to let her do that.
If you do that, you will both be committing a major sin, and you will not be excused for that, because it is easy to find other ways of removing this hair, such as using the well known depilatories, if you cannot use a razor. This is permissible in cases of necessity when one is unable to move, or if one is sick or insane and other cases where a man or woman is unable to shave the pubic hair. And Allaah knows best. The answer to this question is that there isn\’t a \”specific way\” as we have for wudhu or ghusl. The process of shaving can be done anyhow provided you exercise precaution in doing so. As regards whether it is an obligation or optional, the jurists (may Allaah have mercy upon them) agreed that it is a recommended act for men and women, however, some jurists (may Allaah have mercy upon them) are of the view that it is an obligation on the woman if her husband orders her to do so. Ibn Muflih (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in Al-Aadaab Ash-Shar\’iyyah (the religious etiquettes): \’ It is disliked to delay shaving the pubic hair, plucking out armpit hair and trimming one\’s moustache more than the stated period. \’ The stated period is forty days as Imaam Muslim(may Allaah have mercy upon him) reported that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: \” The period that was prescribed for us to trim our moustache, clip our nails, pluck out our armpit hair and shave our pubic hair is forty days. \” Of course it was the Prophet Sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) who determined for them this period of forty days, so it is disliked to leave them longer than this period of time.
I had asked some knowledgeable people in my local area and they have said that it should be done in 40 days as in the above hadith. Though some people claim that it nullifies all your good deeds if not shaved within 40 days, the shaving of hair doesn\’t come as a compulsion for making your prayer valid, rather it is an act of Fitrah as mentioned in the hadith in the question. They are part of \’Taharah\’ (Cleanliness) Regarding Scissors, the main objective is to cut them short, so the use of scissors is deemed permissible. It was said to Ahmad Bin Hanbal: What is your opinion of a man that cuts down below with scissors and he does not cut it all off? He said: I hope that is sufficient by the will of Allah. It was said: O Abu Abdullah what do you say about a man who plucks his pubic hair? He said: And does anyone have the strength to do this?. And shaving the pubic hair, plucking it,removing it with lime or arsenic are all permitted as long as the aim is fulfilled which is the removal of the hair and cleaning the place. On the authority of Abu Muhammad al-Hasan bin Ali bin Abi Talib, the grandson of the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu цalayhi wasallam, and who is dearest to him, radiyallahu цanhuma, who said: цI committed to memory from the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu цalayhi wasallam, (the following words): Leave that about which you are in doubt for that about which you are in no doubt. [Al-Tirmidhi and al-Nasaцi related it, and al-Tirmidhi said: It is a good and genuine Hadith] So better not take risks. Allah knows best!! Baarakallahu Feekum. 🙂