why do we hurt each other quotes


Pain is a pesky part of being human, I\’ve learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here. Pain is a sudden hurt that can\’t be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing. Pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces.
There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. ~Don Miguel Ruizб The other day I received a comment on an old blog post that started with, БYouБre full of crap,Б and ended with, БI donБt know, and idiots like you donБt help us figure it out.


Б Shortly after, I received an email from a new blogger who recently contributed to the site. She mentioned sheБd received her first harsh comment, and she wanted to know if this is normal, and how she should deal with it. I told her she will likely engage in far more constructive, uplifting conversations than negative, hurtful ones. But this kind of thing is to be expected when you write about emotionally charged topics, especially since we often search for self-help articles when weБre looking for answersБ or weБre looking to forget the answer we already know: that pain is unavoidable, and sometimes we simply need to go through it.


With this in mind, I responded privately to my reader, БI get the impression youБre really hurting right now. Is there some way I can help? Б Right then I thought about all the times I lashed out at people when I was suffering in the past. And I thought about how justified I felt in hurting others, especially when theyБd hurt me first, or failed to really help. These are not things I am proud to admit, and theyБre not things IБd recommend or condone. We all have a responsibility to learn healthy ways to cope. But I suspect if we\’re honest with ourselves, most of us can identify moments when we acted thoughtlessly, from a place of sorrow or anger.


Most of us have felt pain burning like a hot coal in our hands and felt desperate to unload it, somehow, somewhere. I donБt appreciate being called an idiot, and I know I donБt deserve it, just like none of us deserve misdirected rage from a family member, coworker, or stranger. We have a right to set boundaries and communicate when something is not okay. But the world is a better place when we choose to do that from a place of love and compassion instead of righteousness and judgment. We all act thoughtlessly at times. Most often we donБt mean to hurt each other. We just donБt recognize or remember how to stop hurting ourselves. Photo by

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