Think before responding. This includes stopping yourself from yelling back, throwing things, or slamming doors. Be aware that strong reactions on your part will simply escalate the tension and cause the yelling to continue and perhaps even grow in intensity. Your parent is angry for one reason or another, even if he/she is wrong in doing so, and the yelling is a sign of frustration and a desire to be heard by you.
Respond with aggression will make them feel misunderstood, so more yelling will be likely in the future. Sometimes parents even take subtle signs of dissent as aggression (rolling your eyes, sarcasm, slightly mocking faces). So, these should also be reconsidered. Think about the reactions that you know from past experience that your parents can\’t stand. Even if you\’re tempted to get back at them for making you feel uncomfortable and inferior,
do not engage in behavior you know triggers more anger in them.
Understand what verbal abuse is. Verbal abuse is difficult to identify. This type of abuse can happen in all types of families, whether you are rich or poor and regardless of race or location. Below are some common signs of verbal abuse; if you can answer yes to any of these, you may need to contact professionals for help: Do your parents use threats to make you do something or to keep you from doing something?
Do your parents curse at you, call you names, humiliate you in public, or degrade you? When you share your thoughts and feelings about something important with your parents, do your parents ignore you or make fun of you? Are you afraid of your parents?