It is your wedding day. Right now, you are about to walk down the aisle and marry the love of your life; your soul mate; the person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Well, maybe not that last one. Maybe in a few years your marriage is going to fail. Maybe, this person standing at the end of the aisle waiting for you is going to break all the promises that they were supposed to keep forever. It s true that 50 percent of marriages fail in the United States. Why is it that so many people decide to break the vows that they promise to keep forever? Marriages fail for many reasons. However, in the end marriages fail because of a lack of maturity. Three ways that this immaturity presents its self is through infidelity, lack of commitment, and remarriage after divorce. Infidelity is the number one reason for divorce in America. It can be defined as: the act of being unfaithful. When someone decides to have a relationship with another person while still in a marriage they are not only being unfaithful to
both partners but they are being unfaithful to themselves and their vows. They are choosing to lie which shows a lack of responsibility and immaturity. These people obviously didn t know what they were saying on their wedding day. They didn t take the time to think about what it was they were promising, and therefore are not mature enough to understand what it means to be married. When two people come together and decide to get married they are choosing to commit their lives to each other. Lack of commitment in a marriage is the third biggest reason for divorce.
Lack of commitment in marriage also shows a lack of maturity. When two people get married they are binding their lives together. Marriage is supposed to be something that lasts forever. However, when immature people decide that marriage sounds like a good idea they don t take it as seriously as they would if they were more mature. And through these decisions, later on in marriage their immaturity will show and everything will come tumbling down. Statistics show that the more times someone gets married the higher the likelihood is that they will get divorced. When two people get a divorce they are breaking the bonds and vows that they had made on their wedding day. When someone gets married for a second or third time those bonds and vows seem easier and easier to break. And this act of breaking bonds and vows with multiple people, shows a lack of maturity. These people can t make up their minds. They choose to put themselves in front of everything else, when marriage is supposed to be about putting your spouse in front of yourself. When someone says, I do, it is meant for one person not three for four. Mature people would wait for the right person to come along and not experiment along the way. Its one of the biggest decisions a person can make in their life. And as statistics show, many people make the wrong one. Or, maybe they didn t and just never understood what it meant to be married. In any case marriages fail because of a lack of maturity. Please make sure that you are mature enough when it is your turn make the decision to say, I do.
Divorce Essay About The Causes, Effects And Solutions Of Divorce Many people get divorced for many reasons. There are many causes and many effects to divorce. There are proactive and reactive solutions to prevent divorce. People get divorced because they either get really annoyed at their wife or husband but some other reasons are that they were just in love that wasn\’t going to last. In the U. S. in the year 2000 were 957,200 divorces have been reported (excluding the non-counting states). Marriages in the U. S. in the year 2000 were 2,355,005. Divorces in New York in the year 2000 were 62,794. Men the age of 45 that are married, the relationship ends in divorce. Women\’s first marriage ends in divorce and the age of woman is 60. Divorces happen either because there is no love in the relationship and the marriage wasn\’t a good choice. Another reason why a marriage doesn\’t work out is because of a baby that was born before the marriage. The father wanted to take care of the baby but in order to take care of the baby the father needed to get married. But after a while they parents start to fight and the kid is in the middle of the controversy. While in the middle of this no one is paying any attention to the baby and the baby isn\’t receiving any trust from the parents. So the baby won\’t learn to trust anyone in his life. When the kid grows up and their parents are still fighting then the kid will start to develop mental problems like anger short tempers, loneliness, not many friends, and the main probability are the social problems that will affect the kid in a very negative way.
The kid can become a very disturbed person. Many kids grow up with a father and mother but some don\’t because either the father or the mother isn\’t there in the kids\’ life. Some fathers don\’t even care about their kids and don\’t want them so they just forget about them and leave the kid behind with the mother. Kids everyday go through life with at least a father or mother, or both, but not everyone has a mother and a father living in the same house because they don\’t get along together or never got married and the marriage factor comes into play and the father doesn\’t want to get married and he has a kid to look after but can\’t then eventually forgets about their kid. But he never really forgets about his son or daughter because its stuck in the back of his mind and starts to eat away at his mind. At this point the mother of the kid is stuck paying for food, clothes, diapers, and other supplies for the baby. Plus the other expenses for the house/apartment, electric and gas, water bill, etc. In this situation the mother takes the father to court and asks or demands the father to pay child support. Usually the mother wins the decision and gets the child support from the father to help the kid. After a while as the baby is growing up he/she is going to start asking questions about his father and where he is. The mother probably wont tell the kid until he/she is old enough to understand everything. Finding out what the problem is, is.