It seems unfair that bad things should happen to good people If you keep helping and serving, why should negative things come back to you? IБm a good personБ why does this keep happening to me? WhatБs WRONG with me? Nice guys finish lastБ There are no good men/women out there I get this all the time. In fact, it s one of my favorite questions. There are very good reasons why БbadБ things happen to you (even if youБre a saint) and there are specific things you can do to break free of them. But first, let s get clear on what БbadБ things are, why they are a permanent feature in your life, and what you can do about it:
1. Where Your БRealityБ Comes From As soon as you are born, you are in survival mode. Plain and simple. You need food, shelter, and protection. Yes, you are a beautiful little thing but, ultimately, you need all the help you can get. You learn to blend in by absorbing everything around you. You pull in the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, ideals, and rationalizations of those around you. By duplication, you learn to be a good person and survive. Monkey see Б monkey do. From age zero to 7, your brain is in a theta wave state and you unconsciously store a lot of data. But from then on, everything youБve accumulated becomes your reality and you begin to attract more of the things you grew up believing. How many of you attracted a boyfriend or a mate just like your Mom or Dad? In fact, I was recently working with someone whose patterns of destructive boyfriends mimicked her childhood exactly Б her father left during her motherБs pregnancy. Those original feelings of betrayal, abandonment and desperation were repeating themselves in her current and finances. How did we change this for her? We systematically went through removing all the energy surrounding each event of betrayal, abandonment, and desperation.
After these events felt clean, she noticed that they held no power over her anymore. She said it was as if these events were now part of someone elseБs story Бб as if she was watching them on a tiny screen. It often happens that your original image of the world is what causes you the most distress later in life even if you re generally a good person. 2. The Myth Of БBad ThingsБ ItБs time to see Бbad thingsБ for what they really are Б gifts. They are the UniverseБs way of poking you and telling you to work on something. If you ignore these signs, play Бvictim,Б and let the bad things repeat themselves, then itБs entirely your own fault. I m sorry Б I am not going to lie to you and gloss over it. It is your reality and only you are responsible for cleaning it up. Bad things are the UniverseБs way of giving you vital information. And itБs entirely on you what you do with it. I help people deal with these energy patterns all the time. If at any moment, you keep experiencing the following things, then you likely have some blocks that need to be cleared out ASAP: Your dreams and When something bad happens, you should be HAPPY. Yes, happy. Now you know what is БwrongБ with you! These repeat events are pointing out the gunk in your life and giving you an opportunity to get rid of them forever. 3. You DonБt Have A Choice No, you canБt pretend youБre an ostrich and put your head in the sand. The Universe loves you so much it will keep showing you your patterns, show you what you need to work on so you can clear it and get on with your happy version of life. The Universe loves you so much, it will keep on giving you this gift over and over again.
At the end of the day, you have no choice but to love yourself enough that you decide to keep fixing whatever comes up. Do you feel bad things happen to you more often than not? Can you name some of the destructive patterns in your life? We d love to hear your story in the comments below. Why do bad things happen to good people? Why is this world so unfair? Please don\’t tell me \”We can\’t understand \’s ways. \” I am sick of hearing that. I want an explanation. Are you sure you want an explanation? Do you really want to know why the innocent suffer? I think not. You are far better off with the question than with an answer. You are bothered by the fact that people suffer undeservedly. As you should be. Any person with an ounce of moral sensitivity is outraged by the injustices of our world. , the first Jew, asked GБd, \”Should the Judge of the whole world not act fairly? \” asked, \”Why have You treated this people badly? \” And today we still ask, \”Why GБd, why? \” But what if we found the answer? What if someone came along and gave us a satisfying explanation? What if the mystery were finally solved? What if we asked why, and actually got an answer? If this ultimate question were answered, then we would be able to make peace with the suffering of innocents. And that is unthinkable. Worse than innocent people suffering is others watching their suffering unmoved. And that\’s exactly what would happen if we were to understand why innocents suffer. We would no longer be bothered by their cry, we would no longer feel their pain, because we would understand why it is happening. Imagine you are in a hospital and you hear a woman screaming with pain. Outside her room, her family is standing around chatting, all smiling and happy.
You scream at them, \”What\’s wrong with you? Can\’t you hear how much pain she is in? \” They answer, \”This is the delivery ward. She is having a baby. Of course we are happy. \” When you have an explanation, pain doesn\’t seem so bad anymore. We can tolerate suffering when we know why it is happening. And so, if we could make sense of innocent people suffering, if we could rationalise tragedy, then we could live with it. We would be able to hear the cry of sweet children in pain and not be horrified. We would tolerate seeing broken hearts and shattered lives, for we would be able to neatly explain them away. Our question would be answered, and we could move on. But as long as the pain of innocents remains a burning question, we are bothered by its existence. And as long as we can\’t explain pain, we must alleviate it. If innocent people suffering does not fit into our worldview, we must eradicate it. Rather than justifying their pain, we need to get rid of it. So keep asking the question, why do bad things happen to good people. But stop looking for answers. Start formulating a response. Take your righteous anger and turn it into a force for doing good. Redirect your frustration with injustice and unfairness and channel it into a drive to fight injustice and unfairness. Let your outrage propel you into action. When you see innocent people suffering, help them. Combat the pain in the world with goodness. Alleviate suffering wherever you can. We don\’t want answers, we don\’t want explanations, and we don\’t want closure. We want an end to suffering. And we dare not leave it up to GБd to alleviate suffering. He is waiting for us to do it. That\’s what we are here for.